International Women’s Day special: Women are enemies of women; the myth around[ez-toc]
The correct statement is “Weak women are enemies of women”
I was having a conversation with DySP, Agra, Ms Vandana Mishra.
The discussion was around this statement that all of us have heard in our families, i.e. “Women are enemies of women”
Why it all happened in the first place
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Even 25 years ago in India, men folks would sit together and decide the marriage of their sons and daughters.
All the people in the marriage procession would be the network and contact of male figures in the family.
During there at the bride’s place, they would find faults in the arrangement made by the bride’s family and come back to tell the female figure in the family, that “I lost my respect in the society”.
This female figure used to be a non-earning member of the family, living in the graces of the men folk.
She used to be a puppet in their hands.
Women turning to mothers
She would take this task to set things right as she finds an opportunity in the family and finally a place for herself.That mother figure would try to be a bridge between the relationships in the family. Also, She would mentor (scold) the daughter-in-law. would ask her to get more money from her father. She asks her to say sorry to the men folk in the family so that their egos are satisfied and her life becomes sorted and comfortable to some extent. Because…. the same has happened to her some 20-25 years back.
Now, she becomes the axle to the family and enjoys her position.
The sequence of events was alarming.
What changed in women
Times changed, and some of them started working gainfully and fruitfully and started contributing to the family. They started getting their importance due to that. Others certainly got educated enough to get some jobs. Earnings & Education changed the scenario. Now, they had their networking society.
Non-working women were also educated. At least they were intelligent enough to understand their role in the family. They became wiser by the day.
Women became wiser by the day
They started counseling the men folk to keep calm and got that importance in the lives of their children. It was such a twist. They became mothers to their sons and daughters-in-law as well.
The insights were wonderful. Educate them and life will make them wiser.
Let them earn and they will have a say in their own family.
The women were the weapons and arms in the hands of men, uneducated and non-working women were all the more being puppet by them.
Conclusion:
So, Women are not enemies of women. They are just weak. Strong women support other women.
So, the correct quote should be “Weak women are enemies of women”
